Lady_D's Guide to Submission

Another friend left happy :)

2010-10-07T05:38:00.000-07:00

I recently had a very nice overnight session with a new friend, and he told me he was going to send me a letter to post in my testimonials or blog. We had a great time together, and became real friends. He did send that letter, but I haven't gotten around to posting it until just now...and it was such a sweet message too! Read what he had to say about our visit together.

Dear Lady D,
I am home from my trip, and everything was great. I just wanted to email and thank you for our visit. I enjoyed it so much, and had so many of my fantasies fulfilled. Your way of doing the overnight visit is such a great idea. It allows a person to reflect on the play that night, while anticipating whatever might be coming in the morning. You are a deep thinker, and there was never a doubt in my mind that you really enjoy what you do, and enjoy helping others to enjoy themselves too. I was amazed at how well equipped you were, and very impressed with your extreme consciousness about safety. You are definitely one of the best people to visit for fantasy work, and I will plan to visit with you again.

It always pleases me when my guests leave happy, and even more so when they set aside a few minutes to let me know.

Pandora's Box documentary, and dis, dat, n da udder

2010-06-18T12:27:00.000-07:00

I was watching a show on hulu, a docu-movie entitled "Fetishes", taped at Pandora's Box. If you're interested in seeing the video for yourself, you can see it here.

All of the dominatrixes who work at Pandora's Box were interviewed, as well as many of the clients. Re the dominatrixes, it appeared to be a unanimous conclusion that they consider what they do therapeutic, a conclusion with which I am in full agreement. The person doing the interview came to a conclusion of his own, and said something along the lines of, "Most fetishes are the realization of ones fears and nightmares." What do you think?
I know that I have seen this manifest itself in sessions with *some* of my clients, but I would not go so far as to say "most" times. I think some of them are just aroused by their fantasies, with fear not playing a part at all...in fact, some seem to want to take great pains to avoid being afraid (I suggest they do not request a kidnapping fantasy session ;). But I'd really like to hear from you, what is *psychological standpoint? Are you trying to face your fears, so hope for a theraputic session? Or is it all about sexual fantasy for you?

Another thing that most of the dominatrixes said was that they truly love men, and love what they do. I am also 100% in agreement with that statement, that's exactly how I feel. I love men, but I love the power exchange and synergy even more. Being the one person who can liberate the fantasies that have been kept hidden away for years and years makes me feel powerful beyond reason! I love that my clients are willing to share their fantasies with me, and allow me to become a part of them.

"Mistress Raven" owns Pandora's Box, but does not do sessions herself. When asked about her decision to stop holding sessions, she replied that she just got burned out...further explaining that the clients had drained all of her energy from her during her sessions, until she finally felt she had no more to give. That is an excellent point! I know what it feels like to be burnt out, albeit only in a temporary sense. As soon as I start feeling that my clients are just a job that I "must" do, I take a few days off, and when I start missing the power, and craving being a part of someone's fantasy, I get back to work again. This is also the reason that I will never hold more than two sessions per day, and if I have an overnight or kidnapping fantasy session, I will not hold any other sessions on the days prior to and following the session, to avoid feeling overwhelmed by all the intense feelings and to allow myself to become grounded again.

Now, since I'm talking about how dominatrixes feel, I'm going to let you know some of the things that really annoy me...speaking of getting burnt out, lol.

Although I state very clearly on my website and in all my ads that I require 24 hours notice for all session requests, I get tons of messages such as this, "I know you like 24 hours notice...but can you see me this afternoon?" Why would someone even ask that? This appears to me as though they are telling me that they know what I'd like them to do, but that's not what they're *going* to do. NEWSFLASH! This is not just something I'd like, this is a REQUIREMENT.

Clients who have the audacity to offer me more money if I will ensure them a "happy ending" to their session. I do not ever ensure a "happy ending", and I believe I've been pretty clear about that as well. If you are one of the fortunate ones who happen to achieve orgasm by my hands, or who is allowed to give himself relief before you are asked to leave, you're one of the lucky ones. I am a dominatrix, not a prostitute, so I will never exchange sex for money. And asking me if I will if you give me more money is only slightly better than asking any woman you might meet on the street if she'll give you an orgasm for money - it's just not acceptable!

Clients who can't keep their hands to themselves. Most of you are pretty good about understanding that I have a "no touching" rule; or, more aptly put, a rule stating that you will not touch me (I still get to do a lot of touching). If I have reminded you once that you are not to touch me, that should be the end of the discussion.

Clients who want to direct my scene, telling me what they want right down to the most minute detail, including how I should dress for them. I realize that this is something that a lot of dominatrixes are willing to accept, but I am not. I will *usually* wear whatever feels best to/for me at the time. I am unique, so please don't assume that just because another dominatrix is willing to do something, I must be too.

Men who want to exchange endless email messages, and/or who want to know every detail about what will take place during our session together. First, I do not KNOW what will take place. This is not some play for which I have learned a script and stick with it, this is a real live fantasy session. I know what we'll do when we do it, and I see how you react/respond to what I'm doing. As for the endless email messages, I have stopped offering web training because it was consuming too much of my time. If I won't even spend so much time processing email when I'm getting paid for it, whatever makes you think you have the right to expect me to do so for free? To make matters worse, there are more people than you might realize who are willing to waste my time with endless email, and never even make an appointment. So that's why you may get a message from me letting you know that we've reached the end of our correspondence.

Those with lots of "experience" who think they know everything they need to know about a session with a dominatrix...be sure to read the paragraph above. I do not require, or even want, an interview prior to the session. A large component in the dynamics of my scenes is the adrenalen rush that comes from being confronted by a woman you have never even so much as spoken to, and asked to strip naked and allow her to blindfold and bind you. When I first began holding professional sessions, I did meet with my clients prior to making an appointment, but they never felt quite right. When they showed up for their session, that initial thrill was noticeably absent - we already knew each other - some of the mystery was gone before we'd even had a chance to begin.

Of course, the "no shows" are a real pet peeve. Even worse if he happens to be one of those who has pushed the email correspondence to the limit before finally making an appointment, only to not show up or even bother to let me know he's not coming. I have, in all likelihood, gone to a lot of trouble to be ready for his session, only to be stood up. If you make an appointment, I expect you to be here or else have the courtesy to let me know of a change in plans. No shows will be expected to pay in advance for any future session requests.

I know this looks pretty bitchy, and to those of you with whom I have been corresponding, don't worry, if I were upset with you I would have said something. If I DO say something, or have said something, perhaps reading this list of rants will help you understand why.

OK, so now what do YOU want to talk about?

More on tiny penis humiliation

2010-06-17T14:48:00.000-07:00

I think I mentioned the appointment I had scheduled for last week...or was it the week before? (I think that bone infection has gone to my brain :sigh:) The appointment was for a pantyboy sissy / humiliation scenario, which was to take place immediately after I posted the link for Penis Advantage, the penis exercises that actually increase penis size. I already knew that this client could benefit from such exercises, as he sent me a photo of his tiny little penis in his introduction message.

Pretty tiny, isn't it? It does look cute tucked inside a pair of pretty panties, and the little bump in the front of the panties looks just precious! When I rubbed it he wet his panties a little.

Looking at it, and touching it when he was here, I could not imagine trying to have sex with someone with such a teensy little thing! Why, I bet I wouldn't even be able to feel it, if he were able to somehow get in inside of me. Tsk tsk tsk. I bet he doesn't get a chance to even try to have sex very often, he does seem rather virginal and innocent - like a child. Perhaps that is why I found myself feeling maternal with him, his small stature, tiny penis (my 7 year old grandson's penis is bigger than his!), and shy demeanor combined to make me want to treat him like a child. So I turned him over my knee and gave him a stern spanking, followed by some tender nurturing so he wouldn't feel bad about needing a spanking. He hadn't actually done anything to deserve a spanking either, other than to have the nerve to show my his tiny little penis.

The only way I would ever even try to have sex with someone with a dick that small would be with a strap-on, or my chin or mouth dildo. If he were adept at other methods of having sex, perhaps he'd make an acceptable cuckold, but he admitted that he really doesn't have much sexual experience (in spite of his moderately advanced age) so doesn't really know how to please a woman. What a joke!

He really was a sweetie-pie though, just an adorable little boyish type. I would like to keep him, and dress him in little girlie ruffly panties, with a short shirt. I would play with him like a little doll, changing his clothes, dressing and re-dressing him, putting powder on his little bottom and his tiny penis. It would be fun to bring some of my lady friends over to have a look at my new little baby doll, so they could see what a cute little penis he had. I'm sure they'd all get a kick out of that (giggle). We could take turns holding him and playing with him, passing him around and cuddling him, spanking him, playing with his little dick. Maybe we'd even teach him how we expect dickless boys to satisfy their women, with fingers, tongues, and toys, so that he would have some real value to us, instead of just being treated like a playtoy.

But such a cute little toy he is! I'd really like to keep him :)

Sorry for the previous interruption...

2010-06-08T09:13:00.000-07:00

I'm trying my hand at internet marketing, and from what I've seen, some of you could really benefit from PenisAdvantage! Therefore, the decision was made, none too lightly, to post one of my ads for the natural, permanent, penis enlargement exercise program on my blog. Since most of my clients never even see this blog, I just might post it on my website as well!

For those of you for whom below average endowment is a problem (or a curse), please do not take offense to the ad. I simply wanted you to know that there IS something you can do to change the situation, so no more excuses. By my reasoning, if you are a victim of a tiny penis, and you choose not to do anything to rectify the situation (and simultaneously improve your sexual skills), then you are just begging to be humiliated! Well, beg no more, I am happy to fulfill that need for you!

If you are not cursed with a tiny penis, before you get all cocky (pun unintentional, but apt), please note that you could also benefit from the PenisAdvantage exercise program. If all the men who claim they "really have what it takes" would put their money and effort where their...um...mouth is, there would be so many MUCH happier women in this world. Of course, if you really already know how to do everything it takes to satisfy your ladies, then there's no need to even pay attention to such information, is there? All I require is a signed testimonial from your lady, and I'll leave you alone (hehe).

Recent news, my infected jaw is infected again. Speaking of not doing everything possible to improve the situation...this all stems from a broken tooth that I have been unable to have taken care of at an affordable (to me) clinic yet, so the infection is back. My face is swelling again as I type, and I have appointments scheduled the entire time until I am finally able to get in to have this tooth taken care of. I just might end up having to cancel some of them, if I can't get the antibiotics to work before the swelling becomes too nasty. Keep your fingers crossed, or light a candle or say a prayer for me that I will be able to get this taken care of once and for all, before any more damage is done.

Beyond that, I've been staying busy with live appointments and the new internet marketing that I hope will actually start to pay out a little bit pretty soon. Speaking of that, even if you don't want to go to the PenisAdvantage site, you could at least click some of the other advertisement links on my blog...I get paid for those as well ;)

That's all for today, I need to start getting ready for my next appointment, which will, coincidentally, be heavy with small penis humiliation LOL!

Does Size Really Matter? Ask a Lady!

2010-06-08T06:27:00.000-07:00

(Psssst....it DOES!)

If you are below average in the endowment area, chances are you're not getting much feedback about it. That would just be rude. Instead, the woman who witness your shame will say nothing, and avoid being caught with her pants down with you again. Or, more aptly, vow to avoid being caught with YOUR pants down again! But she probably won't be rude about it and tell you the reason. After all, it's not YOUR fault that you were not blessed with a 9 inch erection, is it?

You try to work with what you've got, since you haven't got a choice. And your lady will probably pretend it doesn't matter, maybe pretending to the point of faking an orgasm or two since you can't satisfy her needs. That is just how it has always been and always will be. You are embarrassed, ashamed, feeling inadequate and trying your best to make up for it in other ways...but is that enough to sustain a relationship? Or will she yearn for a deep, maximum thrust penetration, when all you have to offer is a tickle and a tease? But it's not your fault, there's nothing you can do about it, right? Sure, there are pills, pumps, creams, weights, and even costly surgery you could look into. Chances are, you've already looked into one or more of those options, but the results were either unnoticeable or temporary, so you've given up on trying to find a way to enlarge your penis, and are forced to accept that you can't change it.

But what if you could? What if you could learn a series of exercises to do, using only your hands, to make your penis grow longer and thicker? And what if this took only 6 minutes a day? What if, after a few weeks of doing these exercises, you found that you had more stamina, more control, and were even able to achieve multiple orgasms?

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With just 6 minutes a day, you will find all that changed. With your new, enlarged penis and more capable love making, you will also find yourself feeling more confident and assured in your life. Why wait any longer? Why keep enduring feelings of sexual inadequacy? PenisAdvantage clients say that their new larger, thicker, and healthier penis has improved their lives in every way! So why not begin improving yours now? Click here to join PenisAdvantage today!

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And yet another boy denied!

2010-04-15T08:31:00.001-07:00

I am having an extended (24 hours) live session with this boy next week, so the following are the tasks I have set for him to prepare for the upcoming, 24 hour, LIVE tease session! This should be so much fun, I am getting more and more excited as the time nears. I have even purchased a "clit teaser" online, which should be delivered just in time! Of course, I plan to strap or tape the clit teaser to the frenulum of my new cock, when I use it.

Since it is now mine, surely you'd be willing to care for it in the way I ask you to until after I have finished with it...right? :) (that was a sweet, innocent smile, btw)

Here is what I'd like for you to do for me. Regardless of whether you are dating or being teased by anyone else, I want you to tease yourself, beginning this evening. It doesn't have to be for a long time, just take it to the edge and stop before you cum. One time is fine, for tonight.

Then, tomorrow (Thursday): all I want is for you to edge a total of 5 times. You can take all day if you want, or you can split it between morning and evening. Just make sure you edge no more, and no less, than 5 times. Preferably split into different sessions.

Friday: Moving into the weekend. Is that an exciting time for you? Does it just get you all tingly? Celebrate TGIF by stroking my little cock for me, but not TOO much. Again, just take it to the edge and stop...let's make that 6 times. Be sure to remember to tickle my balls and nipples too!

Saturday: MORE edging. I would like you to edge as many times as possible - no less than 5 times, preferably 10 or more. Trust me when I tell you I'm going easy on you. I'm allowing you to determine the number of strokes, the speed, the location (shaft or head, or both)...EVERYTHING is in your hands (hehehe). Everything but your orgasms, that is. Enjoy it today (or suffer through it, whichever the case may be), because this is the end of you touching it AT ALL until I'm finished with it.

Sunday - Monday: NO MORE TOUCHING IT. Hands off! Sit to urinate so you don't need to hold it. You may wash it, but not with your bare hands. Use a washcloth or sponge, and only for washing, no extra touching! Do not let anyone else touch it either, please...it's had enough attention for awhile (tee hee).

TUESDAY!: It will soon be mine! You will present it all tied up in a ribbon, with a nice bow tied to it...please?

Dear Goddess Lady D,

As You have instructed, Your cock was edged once last night (in the shower) and five times this morning, and was not allowed at any time to cum. Now, an hour after this morning's experience, Your cock and nipples are still tingling, Your cum-filled balls are aching slightly, my pulse is still elevated, and i can feel a razor's edge of frustration cutting through me. Your Astroglide-lubricated cock was brought to the edge this morning by stroking with varied speed, firmness, and location on the shaft, three times accompanied by light, lubricated nipple massaging, and light underarm tickling with a feather, once accompanied by nipple massaging alone, and once accompanied by light touches with a vibrating feather moving ever so slowly and slightly over the area just under Your balls. Each time, Your cock oozed copious amounts of precum, i was panting so hard that i could not catch my breath, and, right at the edge, my whole body was trembling with delicious frustration. i must confess, though, that most of my excitement stems not from what i am being subjected to now, but rather from the anticipation of what i will be experiencing in just a few days, when my naked, tightly bound, and helpless body is under Your complete control, so that You may tease and deny Your cock relentlessly and mercilessly, all the while sadistically delighting in the evil predicament You are forcing the mind and body to which Your cock is attached to endure solely for Your pleasure and amusement!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Another report from my little edger toy

2010-04-15T08:06:00.001-07:00

After more that ten days of orgasm control and denial training, Mistress Lady D, finally gave me permission to relieve “Her” aching cock and balls on Tuesday evening! This orgasm did not come easy or cheap, and was granted only after intense training that including multiple daily “edgings” with reporting to the Goddess. I learned through this training that as a submissive to Lady D the genitals attached to my body are no longer mine to do with as I please...they are Her exclusive property, only to be handled in a time, manner and duration as directed by Her! In my particular situation, they were handled frequently, in fact, several times per day...I masturbated daily on multiple occasions, but was denied the ultimate reward each time...I was not permitted to spill “Her” cum.

On Tuesday evening Mistress alerted me via email that I would finally be releasing “Her” cum. She sent me instructions to prepare myself properly while She enjoyed dinner. Per Her orders, I stripped naked and inserted my pink, sissy butt plug. I then used a one-inch paint brush to gently tease and stroke Mistresses cock and balls as I awaited Her further instructions...roughly 30 minutes. When Mistress returned, She ordered me to replace the paint brush with my hand...to begin petting and caressing “Her” cock and balls in earnest...in preparation for my impending release. Of course I was not to orgasm until given final permission!

In obedience to Mistress, I began stroking Her cock and balls...in long, slow, gentle strokes. I brought myself to the edge several times during a 20 minute period...absolutely delirious with need and pleasure by this point...and knowing in the back of my mind...that in the end, Mistress could call off the orgasm and order me to put “Her” cock away...that today was NOT to be the day of my release! But in the end...She did send me the order to “CUM NOW!”...and I did. I masturbated furiously...”Her” cock pointed downward into a cup I had staged for this moment (Mistress had directed that “Her” cum would not be wasted, but recycled...to be consumed by me upon discharge). I came with an orgasmic intensity I did not know was possible! After 10-plus days of intense tease and denial, the orgasm was nearly “earth shattering” and the cum produced was more copious than I had ever managed before...to use the word “intense” would not give justice to the event! This was a full body event...the orgasm felt in every cell in my body!

Having discharged my pent up need into the cup, I knelt in humble submission...bowed my head and brought the cup to my lips...I consumed every drop of hot cum...as ordered...in respect, adoration, obedience, and submission to my Mistress!

I have now moved into the next stage in my training as a slave/servant to Mistress Lady D. I'm not sure exactly what this stage holds, but it has begun with Her order to immediately stop wearing men's underwear. I will now be permanently pantied (at least until She orders otherwise). I've also been directed to sit to urinate from now on... in proper sissy fashion...it becomes clear, that this slave is about to embark on some form of sissification training at the hands and direction of the wonderful Mistress Lady D. I will strive to obey and please Her...to submit in a fashion that brings credit to Mistress and to myself. Her pleasure and praise is ample reward for this slave!

I kneel in humble submission and thank You, Mistress for allowing this slave the honor and privilege of being trained by You!

In complete submission and obedience to the Goddess,

Message from my toy

2010-04-12T16:40:00.000-07:00

I gave my online pet a writing assignment, and he did so well I thought I'd share it with you.

Greetings Mistress Lady D,

I am writing per Your orders to detail the cock teasing and orgasm denial I have undergone during the last week under Your supervision and authority.

I came under Your control about a week ago, Ma'am. Prior to that day, I had not experienced an orgasm for 2 or 3 days, and have not since been permitted one by You, so...I believe it has been at least 9-10 days since I last had sexual release. I have given control and virtual possession of “Your” cock, balls and cum to You. I acknowledge Your authority and dominance over me and thus, I recognize and accept that the penis and balls attached to my body belong solely to You and I have no right to pleasure them except as authorized by You!

You have generously put me under a regime of enforced cock teasing, edging and denial. During the last several days, I have masturbated Your cock several times per day, taking it to the “edge”...so very close to orgasm...only to be denied orgasm in the end. I have learned to exercise self-control in abject obedience to You...releasing my grip on Your cock just as the orgasm approaches and watching as Your penis twitches helplessly in frustration...to have come so close...only to be denied! I have performed this exercise 17 times in the last two days alone!

My mind is frequently on my genitals, Mistress. I feel a constant “tingling” sensation in my groin. And, that sensation reminds me frequently of my obligation to “edge” in obedience to You. I have found that when I go into the bathroom (at work) to perform my edging, that I erect almost instantly...Your cock has learned “the drill”.

Submitting to this regime of orgasm control and denial has increased my feelings of submission to You, Mistress. It has solidified in my mind the truth that I am at Your mercy...controlled by You. I am obligated (due to verbal contract/agreement) to obey You in all things...and most especially in all things involving Your property (cock and balls). Less that 2 weeks ago, I had never heard of You...today I consider You to be the Supreme Authority...She who must be obeyed!

I look forward to future training and assignments by You, Mistress (if it is Your will). I wish to be properly trained by You in proper male submission and ultimately, I envision being held accountable by You for my day to day behaviors. To be punished and corrected by You, should my behavior be less than up to Your standards (of course I would expect to pay to be corrected and disciplined). I understand Your belief in the necessity of cock/orgasm control and I accept that as Your submissive...under Your authority...my orgasms will remain under Your control indefinitely.

I hope my writing has met Your expectations and requirements Ma'am. It is my goal to please, serve, honor, obey and satisfy You.

With utmost submission,

(name deleted)

To Lube or Not to Lube?

2010-04-10T11:25:00.000-07:00

That IS the question. A lot of men say they don't like to use lube when stroking their cocks. I say that that's because they're looking for the friction that is lost with the use of lube. Or some of them claim to dislike anything that's not "real", because they are just too cool for school, and never need or want any help with anything sexually related. HA!

Since I am, as you all must know by now, a hard core T&D fanatic, I am all for the use of lube. Anything that will prevent friction will work, of course, from butter or salad oil to baby oil or those "fancy" warming lubes. But I prefer, by FAR, a nice, slippery, slick, non drying, never sticky, silicone based lube. A little goes a long way, and glides like silk!

This one is my current favorite, Pjur (Eros) Bodyglide

I get it from cheaplubes.com, because I can't afford to pay more than I have to. I am also going to try out another one, a tad less expensive than the Pjur, as soon as it is delivered. I think I'll just replace the wishlist on my website with this one item - I simply cannot have a nice, prolonged, T&D session without it! :D And believe me, NObody wants to see me deprived of a good T&D session!! EVER!

April 10, 2010 Untitled

2010-04-10T06:10:00.000-07:00

I do not currently have time to write anything, at least not at this very moment. But I did want to pass along another link, sent to me, once again, by a fellow orgasm denial enthusiast. God I love 'em!!

Once again, this is a story I have already read and loved, but lost track of. But thanks to my new pet, I now have access to another hot tease and denial story, "Clinical Teasing"!! Read and enjoy...and think of me ;)

How I REALLY feel about orgasm control

2010-03-27T11:53:00.000-07:00

Now I submit my REAL thoughts on orgasm control. I know I've published text (borrowed from another author) which subscribes to the belief that orgasm control "makes him more affectionate", or more willing to do chores, or be nicer, or any number of convoluted ideas and reasons for practicing orgasm control on your man (or men, as the case may be). In my gut,I say BULLSHIT! I do it because I like it. It turns me on. It's HOT!! And when I see how my men learn to have more control, and the resulting INTENSE orgasm that goes with it, well that's hot too!

Nothing...and I mean NOTHING...turns me on and gets me wetter than watching my man squirm and writhe while I tease his cock. Having him in bondage so that his movements are seriously limited, and he's helpless to do anything to speed the situation along. If I'm lucky, he is the type of man who really WANTS to experience a lot of teasing. If I'm REALLY lucky, he's also the kind of man who will go for ending the session with blue balls, and waiting until next time to get his release...or the time after that...or the time after that, to infinity :D

But I will say that, as much as I love orgasm control and denial, I also love watching that look of desperation on his face turn to one of bliss...and then just pure satisfaction. Wouldn't YOU love to give me that pleasure?

Email me about an orgasm control session. Live is nice, because I love to be able to touch it, but online is nice too, because we can keep it going for much longer. BEST is a combination of the two, begin with online sessions, and finish with a live, hands on, session! Contact me if you're interested in exploring any of these options...believe me, I'll be ready and waiting!

Video: Sadistic Girl Gives Torture Handjob

2010-03-26T08:10:00.000-07:00

Now she's got the right idea! I love this video...something you might want to pay attention to (and take warning from!).

Torture Handjob

A FREE treat for you!

2010-03-25T14:19:00.000-07:00

One of the nicest finds on the internet, for me, has been http://www.myfreepaysite.com/. Personally, I enjoy reading the stories more than watching videos, but I know that men are visual creatures, and most would prefer the videos. This site is great for either one, and is 100% free! All they ask for is an email address to register, no personal information at all. Just enter your email address, become a member, and watch anything you want to watch!

Another of my favorite places to check out erotica is (go figure) http://www.literotica.com/ There are tons of stories that keep my juices flowing, many of which are good "foreplay" to get me in the mood for an upcoming session. One of my all time favorite tease and denial stories is on literotica.com, "Amy the Nurse's Assistant" Coincidentally (?) a potential client sent me a link to this story just last week, and we both got a nice laugh from the knowledge that we had the same taste in erotica, once I told him I'd first seen that story years ago, and it has been my favorite ever since.

I've also got a few other favorites, as well as individual stories and videos, which I will be posting here as time allows, but this should be enough to get you started, and keep you busy until I get back with more!

Why I love to tease, or The Benefits of Male Orgams Denial

2010-03-25T10:42:00.000-07:00

I have borrowed much of this text from Mistress Ann, of "Teased to the edge".

Benefits Of Male Orgasm Denial:

1. Power Exchange- Nothing is more erotic and intoxicating than giving complete control of your orgasms to another person. Men are often faced with the stress of making important decisions every day at work, and the pressure that it brings. Not knowing when you will be allowed to have an orgasm, or if you will even be allowed to have one at all, is very erotic. Will today be the day, the week, the month?

The anticipation builds up and fantasizing about your partner knowing that all power lies within them is enough for an instant erection. Most men love power, and when they give up that control and realize that you are their femdom Goddess and you own their cock and orgasm, that is enough to drive them wild in itself. When you turn complete power of sex over to the women you will know that she wants it, and not just because she feels it is her duty. Now sex is up to the women and will be at her discretion.

2. Exercising Control- Men are so accustomed to touching themselves, when they go to the bathroom, when they're bored, touching themselves for comfort and pleasure... when you take that away it can become a renewed experience. Soon you will learn to enjoy arousal and learn how to make it last. A man will learn that he doesn't actually have to have an orgasm to feel that natural high. He will learn to savor the feeling of frustration from arousal (yes that is a good thing)! Learning to rediscover new sensations and finding new ones. Now lovemaking can last for hours and doesn't just have to be something that you do during a commercial so you can get back to watching the football game.

3. Learning To Please Your Partner: Suddenly, when your orgasms are restricted and denied, you learn how to please your partner. Remember how exciting it was when you were first experimenting with sex, and you couldn't keep your hands off your girlfriend? How you were always pawing at each other? You'll get that excitement back when Orgasm Denial is practiced.

Learning to find out what pleases your partner and what their wants and needs are: Before an orgasm men are sweet, loving, romantic, and kind. After an orgasm, the untrained man tends to forget that you exist, and rolls over to go to sleep. Here is where the theory of fight or flight/breed and feed enter. When orgasms are denied, you learn to put your partner's needs before yours. Men suddenly learn how exciting slow kisses and caresses can be. Doing the things that your partner enjoys isn't such a chore anymore when you know that your orgasm lies in their hands. Orgasm denial teaches a men to derive pleasure from pleasing your partner.

4. Learn To Communicate: when orgasms are denied, a man will tune in to his partners needs and desires. Intimacy talk will find a place in the relationship and you will actually enjoy it, not just do you wanna "do it"? Men also learn to open up and share their fears, feelings, opinions and much more that they usually won't share. Remember how good it felt when you were first with your partner and you loved to talk, to share your feelings, to plan your future, your dreams? It can all be yours again with some orgasm denial.

5. Mind Blowing Orgasm: When a man is finally allowed to have an orgasm, it will be an electrifying, earth moving experience. The instant gratification that a man has become used to will not seem as important or as desirable. The longer that one has to wait to have an orgasm, the better it will be when he finally is allowed to have one. I don't recommend setting an exact date when an orgasm will be allowed to happen, but when the Mistress or partner controlling the orgasm thinks the time is right. Remember: total power exchange.

And THAT is why I love to tease so much - the rewards are simply magnificent!! If you doubt the accuracy of this article, allow me to just state that any man who has allowed me to control his orgasms for an extended period of time is no longer satisfied with "quickies", at least not on more than an occasional basis. And even then, there is always added excitement attached to that "quickie". Sneaking off to a secluded area somewhere, where the possibility of discovery both frightens and heightens arousal, perhaps. But every one of these men will tell you that he would rather take it slow, even abstaining for days or longer, while the excitement just keeps building. They are no longer interested in just getting it on, they want to enjoy that heightened feeling of arousal as much as they can. This type of "play" gives orgasm a whole new meaning! However, having said that, please read my other post, about how I REALLY feel about orgasm control (it just turns me on;)

7 Things you can do to improve your submission to Goddess Lady D

2010-03-24T09:54:00.000-07:00

1. Refrain from using alcohol or chemicals before or during your session.

2. Do not touch or attempt to touch the Goddess unless given permission or instruction to do so.

3. Do not speak unless spoken to.

4. Share your fantasies with her, BUT...

5. Do not expect her to fulfill them...

6. Be flexible...things will not always go exactly as planned or expected, be ready to roll with the punches.

7. In fact, it's best not to have ANY expectations, but to just come prepared to experience something new, whatever that turns out to be.

About Me

2010-03-23T07:37:00.000-07:00

I pulled this directly from a page on My Website. For some reason I removed the link to the page from my site, but have been told I should put it back. If I do that, then this information that I had decided wasn't worthy of publishing will be published twice! On with it now...

I was born on February 15, 1956, under the sign of Aquarius
I now live in small town Wisconsin, just across the border from
the twin cities in Minnesota, where I've been a resident since
high school (you do the math). I was married immediately upon
graduation from high school, and had two daughters during the
ten year marriage. I have been happily divorced for over 25
years.

I've spent much time exploring people and lifestyles during my
time as a single person, and feel I have finally found my niche in
life as a result of all this exploration. As a butterfly emerges from
a crysallis, so have I emerged as a new person, full of new life.
I learned that I am, and always have been, someone with a very
domineering personality. Before I learned to channel this
domination, I used it to manipulate people, non consensually. As
a child I would torture my playmates, just to see their reaction;
often using scare tactics on them. As I grew, and learned that
such things were unacceptable, I dominated people through
sexual control, to get them to do what I wanted. Before long I
realized that it was only through this control that I was able to
fully enjoy sex; ultimately coming to realize that it was the
control, the power, that was exciting for me, more than the
sexual act in itself.

Eventually I discovered the internet, and, through my expanded
explorations via this new medium, I learned of the BDSM
community. It was like true liberation for me to discover that I
could actually feel free to be myself, to take control of other
people and experience the erotic thrill of leading them to the
liberation of their darkest fantasies. This is the stage of my life in
which you see me now, the fully emerged butterfly....flying over
the edge!

The Beginning (aka getting started)

2010-03-23T07:28:00.000-07:00

I am just beginning this new blog. I once had a nice blog, but it used webspace provided by Earthlink, so when I changed internet providers, eventually I stopped paying for that website as well. Hence, my blog was lost in cyberspace, never to be seen again. But I missed my blog, and the fun I had creating it, so I'm starting over.

This will likely get off to a slow start, since my head is currently filled with things other than blog material. For instance, I have two sessions scheduled for today that I need to focus on. Sessions do make for good blogging material, but usually after the session, rather than before. I really think that it would be best if I began blogging with more general information about myself and what I do, rather than jumping right in with scene reports, etc. Especially since all my great scene reports that I had already recorded (and shared) have disappeared into cyberspace, along with my original blog :(