Why I love to tease, or The Benefits of Male Orgams Denial

I have borrowed much of this text from Mistress Ann, of "Teased to the edge".

Benefits Of Male Orgasm Denial:

1. Power Exchange- Nothing is more erotic and intoxicating than giving complete control of your orgasms to another person. Men are often faced with the stress of making important decisions every day at work, and the pressure that it brings. Not knowing when you will be allowed to have an orgasm, or if you will even be allowed to have one at all, is very erotic. Will today be the day, the week, the month?

The anticipation builds up and fantasizing about your partner knowing that all power lies within them is enough for an instant erection. Most men love power, and when they give up that control and realize that you are their femdom Goddess and you own their cock and orgasm, that is enough to drive them wild in itself. When you turn complete power of sex over to the women you will know that she wants it, and not just because she feels it is her duty. Now sex is up to the women and will be at her discretion.

2. Exercising Control- Men are so accustomed to touching themselves, when they go to the bathroom, when they're bored, touching themselves for comfort and pleasure... when you take that away it can become a renewed experience. Soon you will learn to enjoy arousal and learn how to make it last. A man will learn that he doesn't actually have to have an orgasm to feel that natural high. He will learn to savor the feeling of frustration from arousal (yes that is a good thing)! Learning to rediscover new sensations and finding new ones. Now lovemaking can last for hours and doesn't just have to be something that you do during a commercial so you can get back to watching the football game.

3. Learning To Please Your Partner: Suddenly, when your orgasms are restricted and denied, you learn how to please your partner. Remember how exciting it was when you were first experimenting with sex, and you couldn't keep your hands off your girlfriend? How you were always pawing at each other? You'll get that excitement back when Orgasm Denial is practiced.

Learning to find out what pleases your partner and what their wants and needs are: Before an orgasm men are sweet, loving, romantic, and kind. After an orgasm, the untrained man tends to forget that you exist, and rolls over to go to sleep. Here is where the theory of fight or flight/breed and feed enter. When orgasms are denied, you learn to put your partner's needs before yours. Men suddenly learn how exciting slow kisses and caresses can be. Doing the things that your partner enjoys isn't such a chore anymore when you know that your orgasm lies in their hands. Orgasm denial teaches a men to derive pleasure from pleasing your partner.

4. Learn To Communicate: when orgasms are denied, a man will tune in to his partners needs and desires. Intimacy talk will find a place in the relationship and you will actually enjoy it, not just do you wanna "do it"? Men also learn to open up and share their fears, feelings, opinions and much more that they usually won't share. Remember how good it felt when you were first with your partner and you loved to talk, to share your feelings, to plan your future, your dreams? It can all be yours again with some orgasm denial.

5. Mind Blowing Orgasm: When a man is finally allowed to have an orgasm, it will be an electrifying, earth moving experience. The instant gratification that a man has become used to will not seem as important or as desirable. The longer that one has to wait to have an orgasm, the better it will be when he finally is allowed to have one. I don't recommend setting an exact date when an orgasm will be allowed to happen, but when the Mistress or partner controlling the orgasm thinks the time is right. Remember: total power exchange.

 

And THAT is why I love to tease so much - the rewards are simply magnificent!!  If you doubt the accuracy of this article, allow me to just state that any man who has allowed me to control his orgasms for an extended period of time is no longer satisfied with "quickies", at least not on more than an occasional basis.  And even then, there is always added excitement attached to that "quickie".  Sneaking off to a secluded area somewhere, where the possibility of discovery both frightens and heightens arousal, perhaps.  But every one of these men will tell you that he would rather take it slow, even abstaining for days or longer, while the excitement just keeps building.  They are no longer interested in just getting it on, they want to enjoy that heightened feeling of arousal as much as they can.  This type of "play" gives orgasm a whole new meaning!  However, having said that, please read my other post, about how I REALLY feel about orgasm control (it just turns me on;)